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Peer Pressure

March 16, 2018 // 0 Comments

Peer pressure is exerted our entire life, so to some extend we are all used to it. Some times it’s more acute than others, and it can take various forms. When I looked for a picture to illustrate this blog post, pretty much all images were in this direction, where one is separated from the group, pushed away, talked behind his back, because he (or she) disturbs the group mindset. That is not necessarily a bad thing, for either party, although it certainly can be a painful experience at the time for the one excluded. They can go separate ways in life, with different objectives, and that’s usually the case. The one excluded usually finds a new group where his or she fits in. But there are other types of peer pressure. Let’s see. A silent one that you might feel on occasions. Let’s say you meet a colleague from school, a buddy in the old days. You both started pretty much at the same level, but now he has a much better job or his family life looks perfect and yours isn’t… Your mind might be working overtime and such thoughts will enforce or reinforce your belief you’re not good enough. And this is the worse thing you can do, because comparing two people’s paths in life is never a good idea. Just be happy for the guy and stop making comparisons! Another type of peer pressure: Friends expecting that you give them a portion of your time for social interactions. This can be good or bad for you. You know the adage: tell me who your closest 5 friends are and I’ll tell you who you are? Your closest friends can exert a good or a bad influence on you, that’s for sure. If you feel empowered by […]

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Keep Learning to Stay Relevant!

February 2, 2018 // 0 Comments

Most graduates live under the impression that once they completed the classic form of education, they will never have to study again. But that assumption is wrong from at least three reasons: we live in a time and age when a certain craft they’ve prepared for in school will not last a lifetime, so they will probably come to a point in their lives when they’ll be forced to change it and need training for the new craft school systems are renowned for being slow to adapt, so what they learned in school may need an update before actually being used at the workplace changes and new developments have accelerated so much that we continuously need to refresh what we know, learn new things and adapt. Jim Rohn’s famously said: Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune. Jim Rohn Of course it’s been a while since he said that. Right now, without continuous learning we won’t stay relevant for long even to make a living. But the emphasis is on self-education, which can make you rich. And Jim Rohn insisted on this idea immensely. Now, here’s a quote that remains completely relevant after almost 2 and a half millennia. It’s from Socrates, who said (and “said” is correct, because he never left anything written): I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think. Socrates You’ll find the same idea reiterated by other great thinkers like Galileo Galilei or Albert Einstein. Socrates “taught” by engaging in debates. Anywhere and with anyone, with ordinary or educated people. In a way he lived (and died) by this quote. Let’s end the quoting series with one from Henry Ford. After all, he was a pioneer of an era, not the one we live in now, but […]

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When Is Consistency of Actions Bad?

January 19, 2018 // 0 Comments

If you have been reading this blog for some time, or are a member of Adrian’s Hub, you know I’m a strong supporter of consistency of actions as an indispensable ingredient to long term success. However, is it possible consistency is not always good? If so, when is consistency of actions bad for us? Let’s review a few obvious choices, before we go any deeper. Consistently finding reasons to take a break won’t make the work go away. Instead it will pile up. If we consistently prefer to communicate via online channels instead of in person, that’s a bad kind of consistency that dehumanizes us. Why? Because online everything is “fixable”, children especially won’t know how to deal with real emotions or responsibility. The examples could go on for a long time, but I’ll just add one more here: If we give up everything worthy to pursue soon after start, then we consistently choose not to succeed. Consistency is studied by many, including very successful people. I went over some quotes before writing this blog post, and I saw there are diverse nuances, and even what appears to be contradictory statements. I chose three quotes from very well-known sources to see if we can find reasons to believe consistency is bad in some cases. β€œIt’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently.” ― Anthony Robbins This is a very good quote from Tony Robbins. To describe the true meaning of this quote, let’s say you are on a strict diet every three or six months. But the rest of the year you eat like you never saw food ever. Which do you think shapes your body, the diet or the regular eating habits? I bet on the second, and that’s […]

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